This isn’t about rejecting monogamy—it’s about choosing it consciously. When men start having honest conversations about desire, connection, and truth, a different picture begins to emerge.

This isn’t just about sex—it’s about understanding desire without shame. When you look at human biology through an evolutionary lens, it invites a deeper conversation about connection, instinct, and what we’ve been taught to suppress.

This wasn’t just a hangout. It was what happens when multiple human needs—connection, touch, validation, belonging—are met all at once. Most men don’t even realize they’re missing that… until they feel it.

Before therapists, there were brothers. Men didn’t need a couch or a diagnosis—they had each other. What once healed us is now questioned, labeled, and often avoided. And the cost of that shift is showing up everywhere.

Men aren’t broken—they’re deprived. Deprived of touch, of trust, of real connection. And the longer we ignore what our biology is asking for, the more it shows up as stress, isolation, and quiet suffering.

This isn’t just a story about the Deseret Gymnasium. It’s about what it represented—a space where LDS men could be seen, grounded, and connected in ways that didn’t need to be explained. What we’re building now isn’t new—it’s a return to something we once had.

Men used to find their place in the presence of other men—without needing to prove anything. Spaces like the YMCA offered a quiet kind of belonging that’s hard to find today. And without it, many are left searching for connection in all the wrong places.

This isn’t just about locker rooms. It’s about what they represented—a place where men could be seen, accepted, and grounded in the presence of one another. As those spaces disappeared, so did a subtle but powerful form of connection. And the cost of that loss is showing up in ways we can’t ignore.